Should A Christian Mother Work Outside the Home? (Part 2)
In our prior lesson, we considered what I Timothy 5:14 taught in regards to our question. Now, let us move on to a second New Testament passage. Titus 2:4,5 states that "young women" should be admonished "to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."

Note in this text there are 7 requirements stated "that the word of God may not be blasphemed":

  1. Love your husband
  2. Love your children
  3. Be discreet
  4. Be chaste
  5. Be a homemaker
  6. Be good
  7. Obey your husband

Although all seven requirements are important, our attention is focused particularly on number 5 at this time. Married women with children are to be "homemakers." Other translations render it as "workers at home" (NASB), "keepers at home" (KJV), and "working at home" (ESV).

If a mother pursues a career, will she be able to fulfill the divine instructions here? If her focus is on a job unrelated to being a homemaker, will she really be able to manage the house too? Some may affirm such, but I am skeptical. Will she be the best wife and mother she is capable of being if a significant portion of her time and energies are spent away from her family and her home? Or, is it more likely that she will be too tired or lacking in time to properly fulfill the role God assigned to her?

Christian mothers should reflect upon this list often and examine themselves to see how they are doing in comparison with the divine ideal. Certainly no Christian mother would purposely want to blaspheme the word of God (this is an ever-present danger we must not consider lightly). I fear today, however, that many are doing such ignorantly by ignoring the fundamental role of a Christian mother as a homemaker or manager of the home.

"But Stephen, what if a mother only works part-time or is always home when the children are?" It is not my place to forbid women from all forms of outside employment. It is my duty to declare what the word of God teaches. If a mother can work outside the home and still be an ideal homemaker or manager of the home, then so be it. That is something for her and her husband to discuss. They will not answer to me but to the Lord. Personally, I think a mother is better served by pouring her time and energies into her family and letting her husband provide for the family materially (if such is possible).

I fear that the devil has conquered so many children from "Christian" homes because mom was too busy working a job to give proper attention and time to working at home for the sake of her husband and children. Our adversary, the devil, walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. He wants women to focus on earning money for the family. He wants women to be so busy that they neglect their children and strain their marriages. He wants women to blaspheme God's word by patterning their behavior after what is normal in our society instead of molding their lives around the teaching of God's word.

I believe women are better served if they can stay out of the workplace and the ungodly environment that often accompanies it. It should break our hearts when pure, holy girls are encouraged to pursue a career or get a job and they consequently end up dating, marrying, and making babies with unbelievers they meet at work. Who is to blame? Ignorant fathers are responsible to a large extent in such cases. The Bible gives the father authority over the daughter until he decides to give her away (cf. I Cor. 7:37,38). Where does the Bible instruct a father to give his daughter away to the workplace or to a career? This will make it more difficult for her to later transition to her role as a wife and mother. Rather, he is to give her to a godly man for a husband. Until then he should provide for her as one of his own. "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever" (I Tim. 5:8). If the Lord ever blesses me with daughters, it would be my intention, by God's grace, to encourage my daughters to live under my roof (no matter how old they may be) until I give them away to their husbands that I approve of.